The Eloise Rule: What Barbara Bush Forbade Her Granddaughters to Do in the White House

Growing up in the nation’s most historic and revered residence sounds like a fairytale, but for Jenna Bush Hager and her twin sister Barbara, their childhood visits to the White House were a delicate balance between ordinary family time and the overwhelming grandeur of their surroundings. As the granddaughters of President George H.W. Bush, the girls were privy to a world few ever see, and they often tested the limits of what was acceptable in the historic halls.

The Today show co-host recently recalled one hilarious and surprisingly poignant incident where an innocent game crossed an unspoken line, prompting their grandmother, the formidable First Lady Barbara Bush, to lay down a rule so strict it became known as the “Eloise Rule” and was “never allowed to do that again.”

The incident occurred during one of their first visits after their grandfather took office. To the seven-year-old twins, the White House was less of a symbol of democracy and more of a magnificent, endless playground. They quickly discovered the Executive Residence held hidden gems, including a bowling alley.¹ For two young girls accustomed to Texas normalcy, being in a mansion that had everything—including its own fast-food-style recreation—was intoxicating.

Feeling like they had the run of the place, Jenna and Barbara decided to leverage their new status. They picked up the phone and placed an order for room service, but White House-style. They requested peanut butter and jelly sandwiches to be delivered directly to them in the bowling alley.²

As Jenna described, they felt like they were living out a fantasy: “We were like Eloise in our own Plaza!” They imagined themselves as pampered residents of a grand hotel, their every childhood whim catered to by a discreet staff.

However, the First Lady of the United States had a different view of the Executive Mansion.

The door to the bowling alley soon opened, but it wasn’t a cheerful steward bearing sandwiches. Instead, it was their grandmother, “Ganny,” Barbara Bush.³ The First Lady, known for her no-nonsense demeanor and focus on respect and practicality, quickly brought the girls back down to earth.

Jenna recalled that her grandmother told them “in no uncertain terms that we were not in a hotel.” The message was clear: the White House was not a resort where staff existed to fulfill their casual demands.⁴ It was a functioning home, a national treasure, and an office—and it was to be respected as such. The rule was enforced instantly and definitively: they were forbidden from treating the staff or the residence with the entitled attitude of hotel guests.

This moment, though minor in the grand scheme of presidential history, was a crucial, defining lesson for the Bush twins. It taught them that being the “First Granddaughters” came with immense privilege, but also a deep responsibility to treat the White House staff and their surroundings with respect and gratitude. The rule instilled by Barbara Bush—the idea that even the most famous house in the world is still a home and a place of work, not a luxury service—fundamentally changed the way they saw their family’s place in history.

Years later, Jenna Bush Hager admits this strict rule gave her a crucial perspective on power and humility. It taught them that the people who maintain the Executive Residence deserve the highest level of courtesy, regardless of who is living there. It was a lesson in respect from the First Lady that transcended politics and lasted a lifetime.